Monday, 20 October 2014

Everything That Is Not said.

Secrets cripples a relationship. I think everyone has stories that the world will never know. Everyone has stories that their husband/wife/sister/parents will never know. 

We all gradually take lessons and learn to keep some things to ourselves. The world is judgmental and unforgiving. Some things are better left unsaid.

But what about keeping other's secrets? I have been told innumerable times that I can handle secrets like no other. In fact, while I write this, I realize that I don't know anyone who I trust enough to keep my secrets. I don't blame them. Not everyone can handle secrets.. at least when it comes to others'. Most of the people I have come across aren't really good at keeping secrets.

Personally, I am a pot hole(in a good way). If you'll tell me a secret, you might mistakenly tell it to someone, but I won't. I will take it to my grave.
Sometimes I blame all those secrets for my belly fat. ;-)

I have gotten into serious fights with my best-friends who think I betrayed our friendship by not telling the secrets that we know.(we share everything that happens in our lives- everything). I tell them almost everything about me but other's secrets aren't mine to tell.

Occasionally, I get into serious problems for keeping secrets from my best-friends. I can tell them everything that's mine but if somebody trusts me with their secrets- I take it seriously. As long as the secret isn't saving a life, I wouldn't mention it.

My friends regularly tell me that I keep a lot of secrets. Well, yes I do. It's not because I have a problem with them knowing my secrets; I have a problem when that personal fact reaches the world. 

I wish I could find someone who can keep secrets like I can. It would be a utopia. Don't get me wrong, I hate having secrets in a relationship. I detest it from the bottom of my heart, but if the other person cant keep his lips joined, then they don't have the right to know secrets.

I have even been through situations when there are two people lying to each other right in front of me and I have to stay shut while they give each other white lies. It scares me but also makes me feel good about myself. 

Like, If I start to tell secrets that I know, at least 4-5 strong relationships (as they claim it to be) will break instantly.
But, why would I do that? Those friends whose secrets I have been keeping.. have not really kept my secrets. A few of them intentionally blurt out secrets. That's their idea of Revenge. I don't do that. I can't do that. Sometimes I wish I had the power to give them a dose of their own medicine - but I can't. Thank God for that.

I have also had friends who don't pause for a second before blurting out someone's personal illness after they fight with them. Seriously? Where's your integrity?

Secrets make relationships faulty but some secrets are better left unspoken. Or may be they can make a relationship stronger than it already is.


For now I am off to fill the pot hole :P

What do you think? Is it better to keep secrets in a relationship? A secret.. big enough to end it. 

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